It’s a fitting tribute to “Meet the Faile Family” in the June issue of the “Beavercreek Neighbors’ magazine, published by Best Version Media. The Failes have long been part of the Community Blood Center family for their dedication to helping save lives through blood donations.
Mary Beth served 10 years as the blood drive coordinator at Patterson Park Church in Beavercreek where her husband David served as an assistant pastor. David “starred” in a video produced by their daughter Bethany while a senior a Beavercreek High School for her winning entry in the 2012 CBC/Vectren Lead The Way Scholarship competition.
The Failes are inspired by the gift of blood donations that helped save Mary Beth’s life. She began hemorrhaging several days after the normal birth of their third child Cassidy in 2003. She has told her story of survival in CBC publications, and while recruiting donors for the Patterson Park blood drives. It remains an amazing testimony to the saving grace of blood donations.
The Faile family has changed since CBC first shared Mary Beth’s story. Bethany graduated with honors from Wright State University, Cassidy is starting high school, and David is now community pastor at First Baptist Church of Kettering. The family has grown with the adoptions of Toby in 2013 and Talia in 2016 from an orphanage in China.
One of the children is deaf, which inspired Mary Beth to teach sign language. David and Mary Beth also lead an adoption support group.
Mary Beth’s blood recipient story…
Mary Beth Faile talks about the day – August 20, 2003 – like it was yesterday. It was 12 days after the birth of her daughter Cassidy, her third child in a family she envisioned growing by many more. It was the day one dream died, the devotion of strangers saved a young mother, and a new dream lived.
Mary Beth and her family moved to Beavercreek in 2005 when her husband David became one of the pastors of Patterson Park Church. They were living in Daytona Beach, FL in 2003 when Cassidy was born, a healthy baby and a normal delivery. Mary Beth’s doctor says hemorrhaging is practically unheard of 12 days after birth, but she woke in the middle of the night in a panic. They rushed to the emergency room where she remembers, “Everyone’s eyes were so wide because there was so much blood.”
They transferred her to critical care and began transfusions that continued into the next day. The bleeding wouldn’t stop. She remembers many people, doctors and clergy, trying to help her. The invisible people in the room were the blood donors who gave the gift that at this point could only mean the hope for life.
She had received eight pints, and still she was told she her blood level was at “the lowest anyone could be and survive,” and survival was in doubt. “Toward the afternoon,” she said, in a recollection that to this day causes her voice to break and her eyes to swell with tears, “they told me this was it. I had to say goodbye to my parents over the phone. I was losing more blood than they could put in.”
Her doctors wanted her to consider a hysterectomy, but she clung to hope. “I wanted more children,” she said. “I was trying to hold off as long as possible. But there was no option at all.”
Her doctor presented the choice to her this way: “You’ve got to do this. We’ve got to go. You are going to die if we don’t do this, and that (survival) is not a guarantee. We’ve got 10 minutes to get ready… you’ve got to do it right now.”
It was in that moment of decision that Mary Beth learned about the consequences of choice. She would give up the dream of bringing more children into the world for the sake of the children who needed her now. She would give up what she wanted in her heart and fight for life.
What seems an obvious choice now wasn’t so clear that day, even with death so near. “My pastor was in the room,” she says her husband David told her later. “He was a Purple Heart winner in Viet Nam. He said he had never seen so much blood, even in war.”
But with the surgery, which required eight more units of blood, the bleeding and the inexplicable war against her body stopped. “God pulled me through,” she says. She says to this day her doctors have no idea why the bleeding started or why it stopped. But she has used the mystery and the miracle to help others.
“Before this happened to me, I never really considered blood donating. I knew blood donating was important, but I learned it is definitely life-saving.” When her church organized a blood drive, she said, “I definitely want to be involved in that.”
When it comes time to go before her congregation and encourage them to support the blood drive, she returns to Aug. 20, 2003 and remembers a mother’s choice and the new way she learned to give life. “I tell my story,” she says. “Blood drives do save lives.”
The saving grace of blood donations gave Mary Beth the opportunity to see her children grow, and since the publication of this story, she has seen her family grow in new ways.
“Any special event in life, anything they do special, I cry my eyes out,” she says. “Because I think that I might not have been here. I cherish every day I’m here because I have so much to be thankful for.”